The Comfortable Bride

Heels or no heels? That is always the question. However there is no reason to remain in 5 inch stilletos after your walk down the isle.  The reception shoe is the perfect accessory that enables you to display your personal style as well as be comfortable enough to hit the dance floor.  Shoe designers like Toms have developed special lines just for your big day!

Photo: Katelyn James Photography

Flats at times can seem soul-less.  Puns aside, gold, glitter, or just a little sparkle on a pair of flats can still add enough bling under those  many layers on your dress.  Wedding guests don’t often get full on view of the bride’s shoes but why not give them a sight to see with something like these…

Photo: Simply Bloom Photography

Photo: Jesse Leake

Photo: etsy.com

Manday: Cunning Cufflinks

 

Give the men something special…

 

After countless hours debating the wedding dress, the flowers, the color theme, the venue, etc., the handsome groom and groomsmen can simply get left out. Compliment their tuxedos with customized cufflinks that add a stunning finishing detail to the suit. Custom cufflinks can be personalized with the initials of each groomsman or with the date of the actual wedding.

 

The ideas are simply endless!

 

 

Etsy

Here are some wonderful ideas for the men in your wedding!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Etsy

If you plan on ordering customized cufflinks make sure to keep in mind delivery times which vary by designer. It is best if you have the cufflinks already delivered in time for tuxedo shopping.

Photos:

Middle left: Etsy

Middle right:  The Pretty Peacock

The Newlywed’s Guide to a Happy Marriage

Don’t go from lovey dovey to angry birds: Here’s your guide to a having a long, happy marriage right from the start.

 

 

Adapted from The 7 Stages of Marriage by Sari Harrar and Rita DeMaria, Copyright 2007 The Reader’s Digest Association, Inc.

 

image by Elizabeth Messina  kissthegroom.com

 

 

THE SEVEN STAGES

PASSION STAGE
You may be in the Passion Stage if your relationship is all about the two of you and the excitement, sex and intimacy you are experiencing.
Action: Strengthen your sense of “us” – make time for each other, leave work at work.

REALIZATION STAGE
You may be in the Realization Stage if you find you are beginning to get to know each other’s real strengths and weaknesses.
Action: Develop the important communication habits – listening and confiding – that are essential to expanding understanding and trust. Consider enrolling in a couples communication class.

REBELLION STAGE
You may be in the Rebellion Stage when each of you is seeking to assert your self-interests and you end up having volatile – or hidden – power struggles.
Action: Learn how to negotiate and keep agreements – keeping promises builds trust. Identify areas of difference and start talking about them – one at a time. Don’t change the subject.

COOPERATION STAGE
You maybe in the Cooperation Stage if both you and your spouse seem more preoccupied with the kids, money, home and work and you start to feel like business partners more than lovers.
Action: Make your marriage a priority, de-stress and keep the passion alive. Set up a regular date night. Find a babysitter!

REUNION STAGE
You may be in the Reunion Stage if you have an ‘empty nest’ and begin to have more time for yourself and for each other to renew your friendship and passion.
Action: Refocus on your marriage, get off autopilot & unpack any old baggage. Plan some special events that bring back good memories.

EXPLOSION STAGE
You may be in the Explosion Stage, which can happen anytime, if you are experiencing major career, health, parenting and family crises.
Action: Make use of emotional, physical and spiritual support for yourself, your spouse and your marriage. Pay attention to your physical and emotional health and well-being.

COMPLETION STAGE
You may be in the Completion Stage as stability and security reign and you enjoy each other and the life you have created.
Action: Look to create a new sense of meaning & purpose for yourselves & your marriage. Establish a special project that you will begin together.

Uncover your hidden marriage expectations.

We all come into marriage with a set of mostly unconscious ideas about how great things will be—that no human spouse can meet. “Expectations like ‘Everything will be fabulous, this is my one true love, this person will make me finally happy, I’ll avoid every mistake I’ve made in the past’ put a huge burden on ourselves and our spouses and our marriages,” says Patty Howell, a relationship counselor and author of World Class Marriage: The Art and Science of Relationship Success. “We judge what’s really happening very harshly when we use those standards.”

Talk calmly and confidently about your needs and wants.

Your spouse cannot read your mind. Many spouses report that sharing their feelings, thoughts, desires, and expectations feels scary; others just don’t know how.

Why it’s vital: Clamming up in order to preserve the status quo will just leave you resentful and angry and keeps your spouse in the dark. Coming on too strong will put your partner on the defensive.

Listen empathetically to your spouse.

Create a safe haven where your partner can reveal his or her innermost emotions, thoughts, ideas, and expectations—without your jumping to conclusions, inadvertently criticizing your partner’s vulnerable feelings, or trying to fix things when your spouse simply needs a listening ear. The combination of open, honest talk and empathetic listening fosters acceptance and deeper understanding—making the two of you feel safer and closer.


Be your real, full seland let your spouse be, too.

New research from the University of California, Los Angeles, finds that newlyweds who act as friends as well as lovers have happier marriages. Try to be more genuine, more empathetic, and more accepting—friendship skills that go beyond communication techniques to bring your heart, soul, and whole being into your relationship.

Sort out the laundry…and the dishes…and the vacuuming.

Housework can be an early battleground for couples. Think about how to get past traditional roles and divide the work fairly. Don’t be afraid to talk about it and make plans—it’s not a petty subject.

Become expert money managers.

No subject sparks more couples conflicts than money. Research shows that newlyweds today face a new challenge: significant debt brought into marriage from school loans, car payments, credit cards, medical bills, and the wedding and honeymoon.

Find out how your money personalities can work for—not against—you as you set a calm, organized course toward meeting your financial goals and achieving your dreams.

Adapted from The 7 Stages of Marriage by Sari Harrar and Rita DeMaria, Copyright 2007 The Reader’s Digest Association, Inc.

tiger in a jar blog

 

From Tiger in a Jar, they  document life through film and pictures, and they said they enjoy spending time in the kitchen obsessing over food. From their blog: “When Rubi approached us about making a hair tutorial video with her we found ourselves envisioning the over and under cadence of braids set to sunlit gauzy curtains. The idea was less of a how-to and focused more on the feel of a slow-paced afternoon, peeking in on pretty tresses being done up. We hope it inspires a few to try their hair up in braids or rag curls, and we also can’t help but think it gets a few of us excited for warmer weather with plentiful sunshine and a need to wear such dreamy dresses.”

We love them!

xoxo

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Recycled for Wedding Decor

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